The Power of Words II

by Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins

In a previous article, I wrote about The Power of Words and I am again mentioning words. You may be saying, “Here she goes again!” but how we communicate with each other and how effective it is to say what we mean and mean what we say is of the utmost importance to me. Since words have power, we should ensure that we use them carefully and wisely. As humans, we often struggle to say positive things. We have all heard the expression, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” This is saying that people can only hurt you physically, but not by the unpleasant things that are said. This is so far from the truth!! Unpleasant words have such a lasting effect on people. Words can either build us up or cut us down. We should therefore choose words that encourage, boost and fortify rather than demoralize, deject and disparage.

Our Words

Over the last few months or so I have had to think carefully what words I offer to friends who have lost loved ones or who have been sick.

Those times I have found myself authoring a text, but then reading it over several times before hitting the “send” button because I want to be conscious of the word choice so I don’t offend or seem insensitive. How many of us can honestly say that we mull over our thoughts before we hit the send button? Are our words encouraging or comforting? Are they building up? Are they sending the right message? In this age when social media is right at our fingertips, are we using it to help someone or to send disparaging messages? Do we hesitate and count to ten before we blow our tops? Do we think about the intention of our words? Let’s help to speak life over our lives, our friends, our families, our country, our students or anyone we come in contact with. Let us be positive. Even when we are remedying a situation or trying to give instructions, we should choose words that send messages of hope and devotion. Like most things it will take practice – practice to hold our tongues and speak only positive words. Additionally, when we are scolding our students, as educators, we have to choose our words wisely and gently, but also so that they will understand authority. We need to be cognizant of raising our words, not our voices, for those words land not only in the ears of our students, but also in their hearts. It is our responsibility to uplift our students with words that both help and heal, not hinder, hurt or humiliate. Proverbs 15:1 cautions: A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger. The choice is ours. Do we choose to be creative forces or destructive ones? The answer lies in the power of the word.