Where Have All the Flowers Gone?
By Marcia Davis-Dawkins
In a world where we can be anything that we want, I strongly believe that we should strive to be KIND! Kindness seems to be a word that is disappearing from our vocabulary and dare I say the world. It’s so easy to see others in sadness and prejudge them and assume they “deserve” the sadness. 
Sometimes things happen in our lives and the first thing we say is that we will get back at that person who harmed or hurt us. I recently parked and dropped my daughter off so she could take care of some business. We had planned to go somewhere else after so I would simply wait in the car. Since I know how crazy life can get I usually park far away so I won’t get hit by another car that’s parked close (or is trying to park next to me). On this day I watched this woman park so close, that as she opened her door, the wind blew the door and it swung open and hit mine! In my mind I knew it was bad because I heard and felt the impact. Well, the woman simply re-buckled her seat belt, pulled in her door and was ready to move off with no apologies. I rolled down my window and beckoned to her then mouthed, “You could have said sorry!” I thought, “Wow, no one cares, Marcia, just suck it up and live with it.” But as I took a breath and composed myself, my thoughts went further, “At least I am okay and she might not be!” She could have been dying inside but I also wondered, why kind people have become a rare commodity in life. Did I intimidate this woman? I could have called the cop and she saw that I was in the car. Or was I invisible?
How can we (educators) ….
This was actually day two of my demise. The day before I couldn’t get access to a building because my ID “was miscoded” as per a security personnel hours prior. After several attempts, I saw another security officer who watched me fail to gain entry to the building. I got out of my car and moved towards his car to get further instructions and he drove off! My anger brewed, but I held my composure because I didn’t want to seem unprofessional. I wanted to make it right as I was not sure who was watching and how my reaction would impact that person who was witnessing the event. I really am trying to make a more positive impact. Interestingly, I thought of two Bible verses I learned a child– first, “A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 and the second, from Philippians 4:5 “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” I also thought that even though the education system does not build its principles on the Bible, they are worth pondering. I could not help but wonder how can we teach our students to be kind and be conscious of what they say to others? How can we (educators) make a difference in students’ lives or even our colleagues’? How can we help to make them into “flowers?” There are so many moments of hate, war, meanness, bullying and such. We must remind our students and ourselves that while it is easy to be mean and hateful, it takes true strength to be kind, especially to unkind people, who, in all likelihood, are the ones who need it most. 
When you have a bad day, attempt to treat the world better than it treated you. Greatness is not in what we have, but what we give…give kindness and watch the garden flourish.