Emotions/Feeling
Emotions/Feelings
By Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Please Read My Poem on Emotions! Sadness and Happiness
Brave Fabulous Talented
Lonely
and more …
The Teacher, the Leader
The Teacher, the Leader
By Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Teachers’ Appreciation Week is celebrated in many parts of the world. In the United States, National Teacher Appreciation Month takes place for the entire month of May each year, but the majority of the festivities center around the first week of May, which has officially been dubbed “Teacher Appreciation Week.”
As a teacher, there are many hats that are worn, one of which is a leader. The leader in the classroom motivates students. Bo Bennet once said, “Enthusiasm is excitement with inspiration, motivation, and a pinch of creativity.” This quote exemplifies what teachers do daily.
The teacher establishes a learning environment
The teacher establishes a learning environment in which each student feels like a key person in a group and where the teacher-student interactions validate and support self-esteem. He/she takes care of routine details and has a clear set of logical standards and systematically follows it and wants others to also do so. As a teacher with rules and expectations, he/she will be more flexible and provide an environment so to be more effective in the classroom.
The teacher in the classroom has many interpersonal relationships with students so much so that the teacher can influence the students. For example, a teacher guides a student to want to do a particular subject or assignment based on that teacher’s passion about the subject area. The teacher is seen as a change agent for students because the leader/teacher helps to improve the students’ learning and behavior development. The teacher guides the students through the curriculum so that they learn what is required for a particular grade level. Because of this guidance from the teacher, the students are somehow transformed academically or at time behaviorally.
Interestingly enough, the teacher who is a leader in the classroom, could also help to develop the students to be leaders in the classroom and eventually in whatever they decide to undertake in their adult lives. There are many critics who might think that teachers are not leaders, but they do have much power, control and influence. If used effectively these assets can make a difference in the classroom, district and community.
Teachers have genuine care and concern for their students and are usually very passionate about their jobs, and these are strong elements of being a good leader.
As a teacher and leader…
As a teacher and leader one has to communicate effectively with all the stakeholders in the school system, the administrator, the parents, faculty members, and members of the community. The teacher also has to build and maintain trust, and manage conflict in the classroom. The teacher as a leader has to ensure that there is cohesiveness in the classroom.
There are teachers who, without a doubt, use their leadership positions negatively and they don’t realize that this position requires responsibility and demands flexibility to deal with students with various behavior challenges. It takes a special person to be a teacher who is a leader, who is faithful, available and also teachable!!!
Am I Dependable?
Am I Dependable?
By Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Neal A. Maxwell once said, “God does not begin by asking us about our ability, but only about our availability, and if we then prove our dependability, he will increase our capability.” One of the qualities that I hold dearly is being dependable. Being dependable means giving your word and sticking to it, so others can see that you are reliable. Of course, there are sometimes unforeseen occurrences that might stop you from fulfilling your promise, and that is understandable. However, if a person is consistently late or doesn’t keep his/her word, then that is problematic! For the most part, a person should be accountable for his or her actions.
Being dependable 
Being dependable includes being trustworthy and reliable. This is regarded as a skill and character trait that employees deem necessary to be part of their business. If we were to think about the word dependable, I am certain that some of us will start thinking of friends whom we consider reliable. There are some with who we have been through thick and thin and we know that we can rely on them to literally move mountains for us. These friends are also the ones that you can always count on to dig us out of any ditch or simply just to be there for us. I have friends who, despite being separated by distance and time zones, I still routinely communicate with and these people will traverse the globe to be my side if needed. If I were to have a problem to deal with, I can call them at odd hours of the nights, and they are willing to lend a helping hand, provide a listening ear or make suggestions. I also know for certain that if they say they will do something, it will be done. They are steadfast, loyal and staunch constants in our lives. We have all heard of the old adage, “A friend in need is a friend indeed,” and when you have true, dependable friends, that is definitely an advantage. There are friends that if they tell you that they will be at a place at a certain time, they are there. If they aren’t, 
then you wonder if something went wrong because you know you can always rely on them. If you are constantly late, then you are not dependable and I might go further to say that you might not be a committed friend or colleague.
How many of us have had experiences where we were part of a group project in high school, college or work and each person is given a specific task and it ends up that you have to do the work of several people because some weren’t dependable? How do we feel? Their talents mean nothing if they are not dependable. What do we think of those people, who didn’t do their job? As an educator, I know for sure that I would love to have dependable co-workers on my team/project so that we can collaborate and work towards making students dependable, while simultaneously being role models. I believe we can nurture students to be dependable since it is an important and necessary life skill.
Being dependable fosters good relationships (which can be difficult to find); it encourages and counteracts trustworthiness. It’s time to take a self-inventory. Are you like the weather and subject to change, or like granite: solid and dependable?
Perpetually Grateful
Perpetually Grateful
By Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Showing appreciation…
It has always confounded me that some people find it difficult to say “thank you” when they are given something. Showing appreciation just seems like the normal thing to do, but for some people it’s really arduous. I have had the opportunity recently to examine that for which I am grateful– things that I take for granted. What might seem trivial to some, but not to others – being able to breathe, see, talk, walk, have a place to live or even have a job. I believe that we should consider everything and every circumstance as a blessing, and therefore be grateful. We should not lose sight of gratefulness. I think it takes much effort to be thankful, but with constant practice it can become a habit.
How do I see being thankful? I believe that as I journey through life and its processes, I accept that everything I do and experience is for a reason and there is a lesson to be learned. Accordingly, I have begun looking for the lesson to be learned. It also means stepping back and reflecting on the experiences so I can elicit those lessons and then give thanks. I am reminded of a song that we. sang in the choir, by Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir, that says “In Everything Give Him Thanks” and it further instructs to “give thanks in the good times, in the bad times, let’s do the same.” It means that even when my childhood friend of many years is critically ill, and I am miles away from her and feeling helpless, I should not be paralyzed with sadness and remain idle. I can still be grateful that I know her, have shared amazing times with her, learned countless things from her, spent many quality times with her, shared laughters, secrets and even tears. I am grateful for the friendship we have and I know that we have grown even closer in the last six months since her cancer diagnosis. In fact, we have a group of five ‘friends forever’ with whom we have a special bond and we celebrate our friendship and compassion for each other. I am thankful for the values we were taught by our parents to pray together, sing together, share our family difficulties together and tried to work out solutions. This empathy that we share is plenty for which to be thankful. We are always there for each other, in good times and in bad.One of the things that I hear is that even though our friend is sick, she always utter how grateful she is. A member of our team of the “friends forever” is always at the hospital helping our sick friend. We are giving thanks for her dedication and love. This love sincerely is from the love of God. Hence, we can pass on these special attributes to our children, students, and co-workers, reminding them daily that in the end, it is not what we possess, but what we shared, that is significant.
As humans we tend to be complainers, but we need to find something to be more appreciative about in EVERYTHING!!!! I am reminded of the old adage that some people see the glass half full, while others see the glass half empty.
It is time to be enlightened and simply be grateful to have a glass.
Being an educator, we often feel overwhelmed with issues we face with our students whom we deem “unteachable” due to learning disabilities or because of behavior problems, but at times we can learn so much from the experiences we encounter. We are so caught up that we forget to stop and to be grateful for the challenges or for the fact that we may be the one to help make a difference to that student. The experiences usually make us stronger.
Being grateful has started to give me a different viewpoint on life and my journey of being renewed and empowered. Join me on this journey of making our thanksgiving perpetual!
Change Our Positions!
Change Our Positions!
By Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Socrates once said, “The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Change can be difficult and I am sure most people would agree that they have had regrets, things that they could redo if given the opportunity. There are others who would say, “What is the point of starting over, I am not good at this so why bother!” I beg to differ. Change means reinventing one’s self and while difficult, is often necessary and ultimately rewarding. Lives may need to be modified after a failed marriage, a failed relationship, losing a loved one through death, changing a career path, losing, or starting a new job. In essence, change is usually a result of a heart being broken or a mind being opened. Some might say, why change when I am so old? In response, I am reminded of C. S. Lewis’ quote “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” 
Change is new process in our lives.
Why might adjustment be necessary? I learned to drive using a stick shift and it was very intense. I clearly remember the driving instructor saying that I should listen to the engine as this was an indicator that the gear needed to be changed after it reached a certain rev count. Sometimes in our personal lives, we need to change because the rev count is different. We need to change the way we think. We want to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. Many people use a new season to take inventory of their lives and try to change situations. For me the season is springtime, when there is a new burst of energy, new growth, new buds, freshness, birds chirping, simply newness. Springtime is especially meaningful for me since it’s when I celebrate my birthday. This year, I want to change from inside out. I will become more beautiful and set myself free, free to soar to new heights. Transition and difference describe the process that occurs within each of us when change happens. I firmly believe that it’s all about the process. What goes on within us as we go through the changes include the pats on the back, having “aha” moments, the getting to know self, and the skepticisms from people. But through it all I know that one of the things that makes a difference in the change process is to avoid and ignore people with negative vibes and surround myself/ourselves with positive people. Change means immersing yourself with people who will encourage and pat us on back. It also means doing more positive self-talk, setting positive affirmations and pushing in the direction where you are heading. This enables us to refocus, while celebrating the little steps made and shifting our attention on the goals set. Just because we started down one path does not mean that we need to finish on the same path. We have the power to say this is not the final destination, that this is not how the story ends. That type of thinking gives us validity to shift directions and allows for metamorphosis.
How do we relate to change in education?
If we have been teaching for a while, we realize that things are always changing – there is change in the curriculum, change in state tests, change in grade level that is taught, change in leadership, and redistricting. How do we adjust to the various changes? Generally, we adopt by changing our mindset and think positively and press towards the goals. We anticipate and adjust the process of transition and avoid resisting the change so that life can be productive. Let us let go of the past – guilt, anger love, loss, or betrayal and fight to move on –MAKE the CHANGE!
No Man Is An Island
No Man Is An Island
by Dr. Marcia Davis-Dawkins
Over 400 years ago, John Donne penned the poem “No Man Is An Island” and several others, including Joan Baez and Dennis Brown, have followed up with songs of a similar title. In his poem, Dunne compared suffering to gold, arguing that we can never have enough of our neighbors’ pain: “No man hath affliction enough that is not matured and ripened by it.” In other words, he feels that no one suffers alone, and being aware of another’s pain only makes us stronger and more able to live. In a world where it seems as if people are selfish and think only of themselves, it is vitally important to remember:
Togetherness and Collaboration
The words emphasize that we should encourage unity, togetherness and collaboration. We need each other, even when we think we don’t. People can encourage us daily, especially when we surround ourselves with positive ones.
Many of us might think that we can do better by ourselves, and we think we don’t need families, friends or co-workers. The truth is, however, that we do! No one is truly self-sufficient. Humans cannot get along with their lives alone and succeed. We are all dependent on others and can’t thrive by being alone. We were created to be encouraging to each and this is supported in the Bible: Romans 12:4-5, ESV For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. This verse is emphasizing that because we are not good at everything and no matter how young, old, our racial ethnicity, our economic status, or our residence – we need each other.
As educators, we are called to reach ALL students
As educators, we are called to reach ALL students – which means that we have to collaborate and encourage each other and help each other to succeed and when we do so, our students reap the benefits. Teaching can be rewarding, but also extremely demanding and stressful. Fostering camaraderie crea
tes a positive culture where staff is enthusiastic, positive and supportive of each other and work together to accomplish the goals of the district. We can share ideas, or as often referred to ,“borrow ideas” from each other. No one is perfect, so we should share seeds of love gently. See the best in everyone – co-workers and children as well as students. We should be committed to our career, co-workers, students and do the best job that we can, regardless of what others may feel or think. Again, the Bible makes reference of togetherness in Romans 12:16, NLT Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!
Below are the lyrics of John Donne, Joan Baez and Dennis Brown whose poem and songs emphasize that we all need each other.
No Man Is An Island – John Donne
No man is an island entire of itself;
every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main;
if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were;
any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
it tolls for thee.
No Man Is an Island
No man is an island,
No man stands alone,
Each man’s joy is joy to me,
Each man’s grief is my own.
We need one another,
So I will defend,
Each man as my brother,
Each man as my friend.
I saw the people gather,
I heard the music start,
The song that they were singing,
Is ringing in my heart.
No man is an island,
Way out in the blue,
We all look to the one above,
For our strength to renew.
When I help my brother,
Then I know that I,
Plant the seed of friendship,
That will never die.
Songwriters: Peter Schickele
No Man Is an Island lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
No Man Is An Island by Dennis Brown
No man is an island
No man stands alone
Each man has a brother
And remember
Each man’s dream has a road
Now we need one another ooh yes
And we all try to be friends
Each man has a brother
And a each man has a friend
You can live in this world all by yourself
In this world all by yourself
No nonoooo you can’t make it alone
And just as sure as you try to make it by yourself
You gonna wake up and find you gonna need somebody else
No man is an island
No man stands alone
Each man has a brother
And remember
Each man’s dream has a road