Compassion or Indifference?

By Dr. Marcia

You might know or have heard the lyrics of the song below. I wanted to write all the words so we could get to focus on the words and maybe even sing or listen to it at your convenience.

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What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
No not just for some, but for everyone

Lord, we don’t need another mountain
There are mountains and hillsides enough to climb
There are oceans and rivers enough to cross
Enough to last ’til the end of time

What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
No, not just for some, but for everyone

Lord, we don’t need another meadow
There are cornfields and wheatfields enough to grow
There are sunbeams and moonbeams enough to shine
Oh listen, Lord, if you want to know

What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
No, not just for some, oh, but just for every, every, everyone

The lyrics to this song written by David Hal and composed by Burt Bacharach gives such a wonderful message and even though written in 1965, is still applicable today. This song is beautiful and has been sang by various artistes. The world is in always in need of love and to step it further it should be filled with compassion. What is the difference you may ask? Even though closely related love can be viewed as that deep feeling of fondness or even warmth towards another person and compassion on the other hand is a concerned pity and deep concern for people’s misery or their adversities.

Covid-19 has brought about so much sadness, in many forms and it is easy to say that people have been frustrated and overwhelmed with the various forms of sadness through deaths, sickness, joblessness, unpaid bills, depression, anger, loneliness, social injustice, just to name a few. To add to the ongoing misfortunes, people have become unkind and even lack compassion. To me, it seems as if we have become indifferent and less caring, to the point of being selfish or even rude. At times some people have said unkind things to each other without even thinking about what the words and the impact on the person/s hearing them. There are those who might say that the recipients of words are too thin skinned, and these persons are not realizing that they are demeaning and disrespecting the recipient’s feelings. How can we show compassion, you may ask? I have always thought that if we are kind to ourselves, then it follows that it can be easy to pass on being compassionate to others.  There are several persons who have compiled various lists and a few of them include

1. Being kind

2. Being courteous

3. Giving hugs if it’s appropriate

4. Giving a listening ear – people like to know that we care, simply by listening to them

5. Listen without interrupting

6. Being verbal, yet temper how we say things to others

7. Being encouraging and supportive

8. Being a team player

9. When communicating watch our body language as sometimes that speaks nonverbally

10. Being respectful – call the person by his/her name and make sure it’s pronounced correctly

Some people are known to say things without even knowing how it might affect the person who is hearing the words. It is clearly not what we say but how we say it! Of course, we can deliver bad news by choosing how to deliver. We sometimes get indifferent towards the needs of others. Let us try show love and a little more than love for each other even steering away from being indifferent. Elie Wiesel once said,

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.” Always try to be giving, forgiving, compassionate and loving. It is necessary to do the right thing by being compassionate, since doing the right thing is always liberating!