by Marcia Davis-Dawkins | Jul 10, 2023 | Education, Kids, Parents, Teachers
Choose Kindness
By Marci D
As always, I begin the school year with wonderful ideas and hopes of how the year will go smoothly. I used my summer break to recharge, renew and reset my teaching styles, philosophy and overall thinking and attitude about how to get through the year. Of course, this year was no exception. The first month went by smoothly and I was very encouraged and kept my dreams intact – this would be year 
I will make more positive impact on my students. Well, I spoke too soon! I had a parent who thought that I was rushing her child into too many responsibilities and that they were too rigorous for the six-year mind! Never mind that the rule was to put her sweater/sweatshirt/jean jacket on the back or the chair so that when needed it was readily at hand instead of going to the closet each time it was needed. Interestingly, the garment was needed quite often, and I realized soon that this could become disruptive for the student plus her peers. I stuck to my rule and decided that it was a reasonable request even though the parents were adamant about sending me notes and when that didn’t stir me, they would send similar notes to the principals, vice principals, guidance counselors and others in command to request that my “strict rules” be changed!
A few months later, another parent tried to pull the rug from under my feet and cursed me out in such way that I began to question my will to go on as a teacher. The demeaning words that were used were too much to be repeated and on top of that, it would degrade my professional stance. It must also be noted that this demeaning activity took place during dismissal, in the presence of parents, teachers and other students. This did not make a difference to the parent at all. I stood firm and I kept my cool. I kept thinking of how it would be easy to defend myself, took a chance and lose my teaching license or even lose the respect I had for the other parents. Yes, I didn’t lose my professionalism and I even thought of the Bible verse, that says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 My knees did feel as if they were buckling and tears were welling in my eyes, but I stood tall and continued to dismiss my remaining students.
The year continued with a few mean words from peers and administrators, but I suffered in silence. I kept my cool and wallowed in self-pity, however, I didn’t teach any less or treat any of the students as if they were less than. Secretly, I wished I could retire or quit and stay home, however, the reality of no income or medical allowance scared me and as such slapped back into reality. I even shuddered to know that I had to deal with the “problem parents” and their students for the remainder of the school year. I kept going, grinned and bore the struggles. They were REAL too! I didn’t think anyone understood either.
I counted down the days of freedom and could not wait for the school year to end! As the days grew closer to the end, I heard that “I would be a perfect fit for an older grade because I had done so well in the current grade”! My first thought was, “why was I being punished for being a good teacher?” Another thought, “I thought I would be finishing up my career in this grade!” I was not a happy camper and weeks after I started thinking of how God can and will help me no matter who moves me where and who says what about me. I am still awesome and can rise above what derogatory words. I will always affirm myself. “I can do all things through Christ.” Philippians 4:13 
Then, came the last day of school! I was presently surprised with gifts, gift cards, flowers and even tears of regret about leaving my class. The beautiful expressions of love and care from the parents and students were proof of strength and encouragement. I felt like I did my job well and made them feel social and emotionally appreciated. I felt like say, “Mission accomplished”! I even thought of the saying “giving people their flowers while it still matters”. I had done my best and was rewarded even if some people made me feel less than. There were some who still believed in me and cared about me. Kindness matters and we should ALL try to keep kindness in the forefront of our minds. A reminder to self: never stop doing my best just because I don’t get the compliments or credit from others.
Love is Patient and Kind
by Marcia Davis-Dawkins | Apr 14, 2023 | Parents, Teachers, Uncategorized
Do You Really Want to Know?
By Dr. Marcia
There are many things that I love about being kind and saying hello is one of them. Whenever I am walking in the hallways of work, it’s one of the things that comes naturally – just to say hi to my co- workers. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the same way. I don’t know if this happens to you. You say hello and those who respond (secret not everyone responds to kindness), may ask how are you doing? Surprisingly, I think they just say it just to be cordial because by the time I form my mouth to respond, the other person is gone. What is the point of asking how I am doing, and you don’t wait to get a respond? Are you really interested in knowing how I am doing?
It’s amazing how people can make you even change your demeanor, take for instance, I went to work as usual to prepare for my day and part of the preparation included making copies for my students. Well, I got into the copying room and another person was there making copies. So naturally, I said good morning quite pleasantly and by the time I got my pleasant words out, I was blasted with the words, “What’s so good about the morning?” I was in shock because I didn’t expect it and it also put a big damper on my mood and spirits. I was most of all scared and didn’t even want to continue being nice. I reassured myself that she must have been going through a rough morning and I was the first person she could spill her sadness on. Ever since that time, whenever I see that person, I am scared to even talk to the person. My mind flashes back to that day.
Then there was another time when I greeted a co-worker, and he asked how I was doing, and my response was that it was a long time and I felt tired. The last thing I expected to hear was that I was always complaining! I don’t even speak to that person on a regularly basis. In fact, I hardly cross paths with this person. It really left a bad taste in my mouth, especially since it was also my feelings, and what gave him the right to say I was complaining if that was how I felt? Above all, why did you ask if you didn’t want to hear my feelings? The world can be such an unfriendly place sometimes! Very few people are willing to take the time to listen or to even talk. I often evaluate myself and ask if that is the way I treated others. I am always willing to give someone a smile in the hallway or even on the streets. Smiles are free!
One of the things that I do as an educator, is that each morning when my students enter the classroom, I greet them with a smile and say good morning. I know that it makes a good start to the day. At times a few of them might be down and won’t respond but I encourage them to respond. The amazing thing is that they may also be the one who calls out another person who does not say good morning to the group. Interesting how we can “train up a child!” And we can be an example for adults even those we meet. We can’t allow people to define us or make us feel less than or even marginalized. Most important, do what you know is within you and continue doing good even when things around you seem dark, cloudy, and sad. It’s on the other person if they don’t care or don’t want to know how you feel.
March on anyway, and be amazing! 
by Marcia Davis-Dawkins | Jan 10, 2023 | Education, Kids, Parents, Teachers, Teens
The Masterpiece
By Dr. Marcia
Death seems to be raising its ugly head every day and just yes, too close for comfort. I’ve been putting off writing about this because it has stomped me, and I have not been ready to face the raw memory. This time it’s another friend whom we usually referred to each other as “namesake” since we have the same first name. My consolation has been that we use to talk regularly. In fact, she knew that I use to work on my lesson plans early on Saturday mornings so she would use that opportunity to call me, and we would talk for a long time then. Since her death about six months ago, I have not done my lessons plans on Saturday, but on Sunday afternoons. I just can’t seem to get it together or come to terms with this horrible fact.
Since we spoke regularly, I remember her calling me one morning as usual and she was explaining how she had been sick and did several surgeries and that things fell into place by “divine intervention” and “faith-based activities”. She even said that after the last long seven and a half surgery, her doctor had told her friend that he had “just completed my Masterpiece!” To which I had interjected, “I hope you realize that this was a clue that you have a book to write, and the title is, I Am the Masterpiece!” I was excited to say this and felt like she needed to hear, God those comforting words instead of thinking about her pain. We had even discussed that she should make notes of her journey in a journal. She also said that she had many journals but wanted to get strength to put things together as she was swamped with work and doctors’ appointments and the cycle goes on and on. Just listening to her it did seem exhausting but there was not a moment when I didn’t encourage her positively. 
I would also think of the word, “masterpiece” as the doctor had referred to her. Seems as if I could not shake the word. So, I decided to research the word. Masterpiece definition as per the dictionary,
- a work of outstanding artistry, skill, or workmanship.
(historical) a piece of work by a craftsman accepted as qualification for membership of a guild as an acknowledged master. There were other words for masterpiece including, treasure, flower, gem, monument, perfection. I could see how she was the epitome of a masterpiece. Her picture can be placed in the dictionary to further help with the definition.
A month or so before she died, I felt obligated to pay her a visit and even though we didn’t exchange many words, my mind was racing as I massaged her back and sang for her. She was in and out of sleep, but it didn’t matter, I wanted to be there with her, and I know she appreciated that I was there. For some reason the lessons that I was learning, and they were overwhelming. As I reflected, I couldn’t help but think that I should be the best version of myself and try to live up to my requirement of being a peacemaker, fun loving, lover of people and philanthropist. Others were telling me that I should always trust the process because there is nothing, I could have done to change anything.
She might not have been able to write her book, but she had begun journaling activities of her journey. My hope is that we can all learn a few lessons from her life – just as I learned. She was not an educator, but the lessons were simple yet compelling.
Additional lessons learned
- live at peace with everyone
- live as Christ would want
- be prepared for life and death
- be willing to show love (regardless of the person)
- be a vessel of kindness
She always gave some interesting advice as we spoke and she would always remind me and many people she met to, “stay with God” and not worry about what other people would say (negatively) because sometimes there could be too much noise in the marketplace.
Again, I lost another friend, a masterpiece – one who will be forever in my heart!
Generational Impact – What is Your Legacy?
by Marcia Davis-Dawkins | Nov 28, 2022 | Education, Kids, Parents, Teachers, Teens
There is Power in You!
By Dr. Marci D
A few years ago, a woman introduced me to positive affirmations and since then I have bought into being positive. I figure that since words have power, I should use the positive words to encourage me so I can feel powerful. What is does power even mean? Power as defined by the dictionary means “the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.” Well in this case I say, I am directing my behavior based on the words I have spoken within me. I have also introduced this to my students, so they begin affirming themselves in the morning, so that throughout the day they believe it as they repeat the affirmation. Affirmation is filled with power, and we must have a willingness to encourage ourselves and as it were dig ourselves out of sadness. We can and should use even our disappointments to reach for higher. Tell ourselves that we will dig out of the sand and reach for the stars. As a matter of fact, we can in turn be change agents for others when they see how we live our lives. For us to have power we must commit to a few things: –
- Believe in yourself
- Be persistent
- Be you
- Be honest
- Be intentional
Being an educator, it is my responsibility to be encouraging for my students so they realize that they can learn and that all things are possible, they just need to believe. Simply put there is hope! I must believe as well so that I can keep the learning wheels turning. It’s not always easy especially if there are parents or students who put up resistance. Goodness, there have been resistance! What do I do when faced with the resistance? I evaluate myself and tell myself that I am a good person and who wants good for others and yes, hope for the storm to blow through then, trust the process. Most of all I rely on the power of affirmation and have the courage to use it. I also turn to the good book, the bible verses for example, Luke 20 20 Once, on being asked by the Pharisees when the kingdom of God would come, Jesus replied, “The coming of the kingdom of God is not something that can be observed, 21 nor will people say, ‘Here it is,’ or ‘There it is,’ because the kingdom of God is in your midst.”
So even though I don’t teach religious education, I do use it in my daily walk to encourage myself. The rest takes care of itself and flows. As a child I heard the saying, “what the mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.” This has stayed me over the years, and I am convinced that is where the power lies- in our mind and we must believe it is possible. So, I say, take it one step at a time and find the power in you!
Pledging
by Marcia Davis-Dawkins | Oct 12, 2022 | Education
Re-planting
By Dr. Marcia D
Recently I was feeling overwhelmed as I was thinking about the beginning of a new school year and all the paperwork to be completed. The paperwork has to do with the data received after the new students entered my class and I must diagnose them and group them for various levels as I analyze and predict the growth for the school year. It seems as if the paperwork that must be completed is 
priority and little room is given for teaching to get the growth. On this day, I told myself I had to have a to “do list” and organize my time strategically since all had to be done. I love gardening and I decided to use gardening to inspire me to move forward to be the best teacher possible. I plant flowers during the springtime and watch them blossom so I will see my new students who are sometimes broken from various traumas and uncertain if they are even ready to learn. I must re-plant the strategies I know have worked in previous years or gather new seeds (strategies) for planting to see how well they will and can grow. I must embrace the newness, the new designs, and the new placings. Some students will need pruning, some will sprout, and others won’t. Some will need watering and tender loving care to grow and for others re-planting is necessary. There will be those students who will bear fruits and simply grow in personality and of course knowledge. Indeed, there will be student growth! Through it all I will also grow.
The newness may be challenging but I am staying positive. As I embrace the beauty of the new things, I can also see the beauty in everything and look at the bright side of life. There is reassurance that there is more in store for my students and more in store for me. I strongly believe that I should take small steps and do them one day at a time. I continue to affirm myself and my students. I also communicate with parents and remind them that it takes a village – we are the Dare to Dream Team!
Full Circle
I will make more positive impact on my students. Well, I spoke too soon! I had a parent who thought that I was rushing her child into too many responsibilities and that they were too rigorous for the six-year mind! Never mind that the rule was to put her sweater/sweatshirt/jean jacket on the back or the chair so that when needed it was readily at hand instead of going to the closet each time it was needed. Interestingly, the garment was needed quite often, and I realized soon that this could become disruptive for the student plus her peers. I stuck to my rule and decided that it was a reasonable request even though the parents were adamant about sending me notes and when that didn’t stir me, they would send similar notes to the principals, vice principals, guidance counselors and others in command to request that my “strict rules” be changed!
Then, came the last day of school! I was presently surprised with gifts, gift cards, flowers and even tears of regret about leaving my class. The beautiful expressions of love and care from the parents and students were proof of strength and encouragement. I felt like I did my job well and made them feel social and emotionally appreciated. I felt like say, “Mission accomplished”! I even thought of the saying “giving people their flowers while it still matters”. I had done my best and was rewarded even if some people made me feel less than. There were some who still believed in me and cared about me. Kindness matters and we should ALL try to keep kindness in the forefront of our minds. A reminder to self: never stop doing my best just because I don’t get the compliments or credit from others.
